Comments on: How strict are you with monitoring the books your kids read? http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/ Wed, 19 Oct 2011 07:32:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Angie Bieber http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-184 Angie Bieber Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:24:50 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-184 That's soooo annoyining right, mom does that all the TIME!!!! That’s soooo annoyining right, mom does that all the TIME!!!!

]]> By: <3 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-183 <3 Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:16:00 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-183 I don't censor any books for my kids. They aren't the type to rob a bank because the book had that in it, and they wouldn't shoot up heroine because the kid in the book was. I think kids should be allowed to read all types of literature, it's there for a reason, and you just have to keep telling them it's just a book, and the things they do are wrong. It's inappropriate for an 8 year old to be reading YA books, but if a 12 year old was, it's okay. You have to be age appropriate too. I don’t censor any books for my kids. They aren’t the type to rob a bank because the book had that in it, and they wouldn’t shoot up heroine because the kid in the book was.
I think kids should be allowed to read all types of literature, it’s there for a reason, and you just have to keep telling them it’s just a book, and the things they do are wrong.

It’s inappropriate for an 8 year old to be reading YA books, but if a 12 year old was, it’s okay. You have to be age appropriate too.

]]> By: ♥✞♥ Jesus Christ is my savior ♥✞♥ http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-182 ♥✞♥ Jesus Christ is my savior ♥✞♥ Sun, 16 Oct 2011 08:08:08 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-182 Yes I would because its important that I want to know what my child is reading. And I want to make sure that there not discovering/reading things they shouldn't be at certain times. Yes I would because its important that I want to know what my child is reading. And I want to make sure that there not discovering/reading things they shouldn’t be at certain times.

]]> By: jenni http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-181 jenni Sun, 16 Oct 2011 07:32:45 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-181 My kids are 3 and 7, so I am not to the point where they are picking materials that might be questionable, but.... I like to think I will let them read whatever they want, so long as it is age appropriate (I don't want my 7 yr old reading a Harlequin romance...). Right now the boys are into dinosaurs, trains, tornadoes, volcanoes, and Thomas the train, so nothing to controversial there, although sometimes my 7 yr old gets a little scared after reading about weather phenomena (tsunamis, Pompeii, etc), but we discuss it and he is then ok with it. My kids are 3 and 7, so I am not to the point where they are picking materials that might be questionable, but…. I like to think I will let them read whatever they want, so long as it is age appropriate (I don’t want my 7 yr old reading a Harlequin romance…).

Right now the boys are into dinosaurs, trains, tornadoes, volcanoes, and Thomas the train, so nothing to controversial there, although sometimes my 7 yr old gets a little scared after reading about weather phenomena (tsunamis, Pompeii, etc), but we discuss it and he is then ok with it.

]]> By: desmeran http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-180 desmeran Sun, 16 Oct 2011 06:48:14 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-180 i used to pre-read stuff my kids were reading, not to ban a particular thing, but because i had a pretty good sense of whether something would be tremendously nightmare-inducing or otherwise far more intense than they were really ready for. most of my kids were years ahead of grade level in their reading, which meant they could technically read something that was really aimed at a much higher maturity level. i really don't think something like ender's game or hunger games is appropriate for a second grader, for example. it was really over-the-top too much for that particular kid at that particular age, i suggested they wait a year. if it just had a couple things that might require some discussion, we'd have the discussion. i no longer pre-read everything ... my older kids are now 10 and 12 and read a ton, and i have neither the time nor the inclination to read a thousand pages of young adult fantasy a week. at this point, i think they're pretty much ready for anything, anyway. still, i will periodically pick up a book that they're reading and read a chapter, so i have some reference as to what they're reading and so i can have intelligent discusisons with them about it. they enjoy having someone to share a book they like with, anyway. and if it comes up from that or from a comment they make that they're reading about some topic where i think they could use a little more perspective (sex, drugs, etc), we have a conversation about it. i used to pre-read stuff my kids were reading, not to ban a particular thing, but because i had a pretty good sense of whether something would be tremendously nightmare-inducing or otherwise far more intense than they were really ready for. most of my kids were years ahead of grade level in their reading, which meant they could technically read something that was really aimed at a much higher maturity level. i really don’t think something like ender’s game or hunger games is appropriate for a second grader, for example.

it was really over-the-top too much for that particular kid at that particular age, i suggested they wait a year. if it just had a couple things that might require some discussion, we’d have the discussion.

i no longer pre-read everything … my older kids are now 10 and 12 and read a ton, and i have neither the time nor the inclination to read a thousand pages of young adult fantasy a week. at this point, i think they’re pretty much ready for anything, anyway. still, i will periodically pick up a book that they’re reading and read a chapter, so i have some reference as to what they’re reading and so i can have intelligent discusisons with them about it. they enjoy having someone to share a book they like with, anyway. and if it comes up from that or from a comment they make that they’re reading about some topic where i think they could use a little more perspective (sex, drugs, etc), we have a conversation about it.

]]> By: peanut 2 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-179 peanut 2 Sun, 16 Oct 2011 06:23:03 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-179 I wouldnt let my child read books like 'A child called it' but other kinds of books are fine. I dont care too much what they read I wouldnt let my child read books like ‘A child called it’ but other kinds of books are fine.

I dont care too much what they read

]]> By: Mama J http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-178 Mama J Sun, 16 Oct 2011 05:33:42 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-178 I will not censor reading. My daughter will be free to read anything she is interested in. That is, except for those trashy romance novels. Ugh. Those are not allowed in my house. I grew up loving fantasy and Stephen King - I bet some parents would have a heart attack if their young teen read those books. I will not censor reading. My daughter will be free to read anything she is interested in.

That is, except for those trashy romance novels. Ugh. Those are not allowed in my house.

I grew up loving fantasy and Stephen King – I bet some parents would have a heart attack if their young teen read those books.

]]> By: Courage http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-177 Courage Sun, 16 Oct 2011 04:57:47 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-177 It depends on the ages and what maturity I've seen in them. These days, I don't want to read every teenage romance novel that comes out (Twilight showed me that all too clear...) So I would probably go to a parental review website and see what 'objectionable' material may be in the book. Usually they're far more strict than I would be (my kids are 3 and 1, so it's not like we're at that point where they're reading on their own.) So I can make a choice based on that. I would like to say I won't monitor or restrict anything... but my library actually has a teens only section and some of the books I've found there have had descriptive sexual scenes, descriptive drug use, etc. Some of the authors say that they include these things to show the 'bad side' of them, but some of it is just too descriptive and would be in the rated R or NC-17 or higher range if it was a movie. So there would be monitoring. I do plan on reading what they're reading, but that's not to monitor, that's to have more to talk about and to see what interests them, to involve myself a bit in their life. :) I have learned from experience though, if your mom threatens to read every book you do, you monitor the books you pick up yourself. The last thing you want is your mom picking up your book and reading something that makes you want to hide for the next few months. Or worse, reading it to family and laughing about what you're reading (one of my sisters did that to prove her girls were sexual, and it embarrassed them to the extreme.) And like I said, I would have to stab my eyeballs out if I had to read every Twilight that's written. Add: Someone said that if they're reading something for teens and they're 12 then it's all good. Actually, did you know that many teen books are written for "14 and up" "16 and up"? It's not always appropriate for a 13 year old to read some of the 'teen books' out there now. And if you'd have a problem with a Harlequin Romance novel, you'd have issues with most of these. And if you'd monitor and keep them from the Harlequin brand name, you'd better look at the rest of the books and make sure. Group sex, friends with benefits, explicitly described porn, masturbation and oral sex... yeah. Monitoring doesn't always mean censoring either. It means being aware of what they're reading. It depends on the ages and what maturity I’ve seen in them. These days, I don’t want to read every teenage romance novel that comes out (Twilight showed me that all too clear…) So I would probably go to a parental review website and see what ‘objectionable’ material may be in the book. Usually they’re far more strict than I would be (my kids are 3 and 1, so it’s not like we’re at that point where they’re reading on their own.) So I can make a choice based on that.

I would like to say I won’t monitor or restrict anything… but my library actually has a teens only section and some of the books I’ve found there have had descriptive sexual scenes, descriptive drug use, etc. Some of the authors say that they include these things to show the ‘bad side’ of them, but some of it is just too descriptive and would be in the rated R or NC-17 or higher range if it was a movie. So there would be monitoring.

I do plan on reading what they’re reading, but that’s not to monitor, that’s to have more to talk about and to see what interests them, to involve myself a bit in their life. :) I have learned from experience though, if your mom threatens to read every book you do, you monitor the books you pick up yourself. The last thing you want is your mom picking up your book and reading something that makes you want to hide for the next few months. Or worse, reading it to family and laughing about what you’re reading (one of my sisters did that to prove her girls were sexual, and it embarrassed them to the extreme.) And like I said, I would have to stab my eyeballs out if I had to read every Twilight that’s written.

Add: Someone said that if they’re reading something for teens and they’re 12 then it’s all good. Actually, did you know that many teen books are written for “14 and up” “16 and up”? It’s not always appropriate for a 13 year old to read some of the ‘teen books’ out there now. And if you’d have a problem with a Harlequin Romance novel, you’d have issues with most of these. And if you’d monitor and keep them from the Harlequin brand name, you’d better look at the rest of the books and make sure. Group sex, friends with benefits, explicitly described porn, masturbation and oral sex… yeah.

Monitoring doesn’t always mean censoring either. It means being aware of what they’re reading.

]]> By: 4Red http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-176 4Red Sun, 16 Oct 2011 04:04:49 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-176 My oldest three are teenagers and they know all about drinking, pregnancy, drugs, and everything else that kids are doing. If any one has a teenager and thinks that they don't know about those things, is really kidding themselves. No, I have never read a book before my children for censorship purposes. Yes, I think you friend's mother is extreme. My oldest three are teenagers and they know all about drinking, pregnancy, drugs, and everything else that kids are doing. If any one has a teenager and thinks that they don’t know about those things, is really kidding themselves.

No, I have never read a book before my children for censorship purposes. Yes, I think you friend’s mother is extreme.

]]> By: Melyssa http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/comment-page-1/#comment-175 Melyssa Sun, 16 Oct 2011 03:08:26 +0000 http://www.books4thekids.org/blog/2011/10/16/how-strict-are-you-with-monitoring-the-books-your-kids-read/#comment-175 I was never censored in my reading and I read some pretty racy stuff and also some pretty dark stuff at a pretty early age. I turned out just fine. i was not even 10 when I was reading my first trashy romance novels and I didnt have sex until I was 18.. I also read things like the satanic bible and I consider myself still a christian.. I would also think my kids would be smart enough to be able to read anything and not to be affected by it so much that it would change them as people, so no, I dont think I would censor my kids reading. They want to read mein kampf, go right ahead, its just a book. I was never censored in my reading and I read some pretty racy stuff and also some pretty dark stuff at a pretty early age. I turned out just fine. i was not even 10 when I was reading my first trashy romance novels and I didnt have sex until I was 18.. I also read things like the satanic bible and I consider myself still a christian.. I would also think my kids would be smart enough to be able to read anything and not to be affected by it so much that it would change them as people, so no, I dont think I would censor my kids reading. They want to read mein kampf, go right ahead, its just a book.

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